The Foolish Couple – 5 Things Couples can do to improve their Relationships
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Have you ever wish for a better relationship with your partner?
Do you want more intimate moments with him/her?
Over the long weekend, we have met up with different groups of friends, some are single, some are in a relationship. Some has children, some don’t. Some will hang out together as a couple, some simply cannot stand each others’ presence.
Growing up, I’ve watched my parents fight over just about everything. Food, money, what TV program to watch. Even the most minor things seems to cause a major argument. I have never seen them get along. Similar types of relationships seem to run in my family. My brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles, all have marital problems, go through multiple marriages, and never seem to be happy with their spouse. I know the type of relationship that I don’t want, and I vow to never be in the same situation.
Having been together 28 years, we feel closer to each other than ever. We are each others’ best friend, we coach each other, and spoil each other. Even as we’ve been through a wide variety of life challenges, financial, health, career, family, and business problems, we manage to stay together. Our friends often ask us, how do we manage to live together, work together, and somehow manage to have such a loving relationship. Here’s 5 things that we came up with that may help you boost your relationship.
When was the last time you took your honey out for an adventure? Remember when you first started to chase for your significant other? All the planning you did for the first date, Valentine’s Day, Christmas, first anniversary. Things should not have changed after a few years together or after you are married. If anything, since you know each other so much better, you should be doing more things together. You now know what they like and don’t like and can plan better adventures together. Minna and I always had a passion for fast cars and great food even when we first met. So we embrace our passions and build upon them for our adventures. Over the years we upgraded to faster and nicer cars from our first 82 Nissan 200sx to our Current Tesla S P85D and we started eating at fast food Restaurants such as McDonald’s to searching for new exciting more exotic places to eat.
Think about what you love to do as a couple and start planning on adventures around that. Maybe you like the outdoors, plan more hiking or Camping trips together. You don’t have to wait for special occasions, you can go hiking every weekend.
2. Hold their hand
We all need to be loved and held. Even as a baby we wanted to be embraced all the time. Did you ever noticed that babies are always looking for attention to be hugged by their mom and dad? Not much has changed since we get older. We still want to know that our loved one loved us. We may be too big to be carried now, but we still look for that contact, that embrace to know we’re are loved.
Remember when you were first dating, what did you do all the time? You held their hands whenever you were together. You wanted to not only show them you love them but to everyone else also. Why are you stopping now. We have been together for over 28 years, we held hands when we first started dating and everywhere we go now, we are still holding hands. Its amazing how a relationship stays strong over the years with the simple gesture of holding hands all the time. I find it so cute and adorable that my in-laws are still in so much love in their 80’s. Everywhere they go they are always holding hands!
Let your love one know you love them today more than you did when you first met. Show off to the world who you Fell in love with and hold their hands in public more!
3. Appreciate rather than complain and blame
Too often we are so quick to find things to complain and blame about our significant other. They don’t cook, they don’t clean, they don’t take out the garbage, they don’t help our with the kids, they don’t go shopping with me. All this blaming and complaining does is to drive more negativity into their minds which actually lowers their self esteem and destroys the relationship a little bit at a time after each complaint.
To improve and build your relationship, rather than being quick to look for something to complain about, look for attributes that you grateful for.
Your love for each other should be growing stronger with age. Look for things you love and are grateful for. She is such a caring and loving partner or mother. He is so handy around the house. She is such an amazing cook. Put together a Gratitude Journal and write down what you are grateful for and you will notice that your love for each other will grow stronger with time.
4. Embrace your inner chef
You all heard the quickest way to a men’s heart is through his stomach. But did you know women love to be pampered with food too? It seems to all the people we interview and talk to, there always seems to be one partner in the relationship that does all the cooking. I hear excuses all the time, they do all the cooking because they are the better cook, they have more time or sometimes the most common answer I get is because they love to cook. The problem with one person cooking all the time is they will learn to despise it over time because it now feels like a job.
I suggest you surprise your significant other by cooking a meal for them or the kids once in awhile. I know what you may be thinking, I can’t cook, I burn everything I cook, no one taught me how to cook or he or she won’t like to eat what I cook.
Learn to cook something easy like spaghetti and meat sauce or boiled eggs. You can put together something as easy as a Yogurt Granola parfait or even a Peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Your significant other or kids will always eat what you make regardless of how it tastes because your took your time to show them how much you care for them to prepare a meal even though you can’t cook.
So embrace your inner chef and make something. After all the quickest way to the heart is through the stomach, regardless if you are man or Woman.
5. Tell them you love them
When you first started dating, you knew how important the L word was. Both of you will hold out waiting for the other to say it first. You knew once you tell them “you loved them”, that carried the relationship to a whole another level. Every conversation or date always ended with ” I love You”.
However now that you have dated for a few years together or married you don’t say it anyone. You assume they know you love them and they don’t need to hear those magical words anymore. Guess what, with all the things happening daily, they may forgot that you love them. It’s not enough to just being there for them. Anyone can be there for them , their friends , their family.Let them know how important they are to you and tell them you Love them any chance you get. Say “I love you “when you leave for work, Tell them you love them when you come home. Leave “I love You” notes around the house for them to find. This simple Phrase “I love you” will not only keep your relationship strong but also build it stronger over time.
We hope that this will bring more joyful, memorable moments into your relationship.
Be Foolish. Live What You Love. Love What You Live.